Hints & Advice

Over the years I’ve met with many brides, grooms, mothers of the bride, fathers of the bride, attendants, wedding coordinators and many other wedding professionals. We exchange ideas, thoughts and often have questions that are common to all those planning a wedding. The topics are varied from cakes, photographers, videographers, venues, budget, flowers, decorations, etiquette, and on and on. Therefore, this page is dedicated to little ideas and big ideas to help make planning your wedding a little less stressful. Here are some hints for you . . . .

For some reason most brides immediately choose Saturday as their wedding day. Here’s a little known secret–choosing to have your wedding on Thursday evening, Friday evening, or Sunday afternoon or evening can sometimes cut your expenses to as much as half. Wedding professionals are in high demand on Saturday and would love the opportunity to book your wedding on a less popular day. This is especially true with venue locations. Some of you have heard the statement, "We’re booked every Saturday through 2008!"

What is the most commonly asked question of a newly engaged lady? "What’s your wedding date?" For some reason, most brides pick a single date that has an emotional connection. Here are some of the reasons they choose a particular date: when they met, our first date, my parents got married on that date, the first time we said, "I love you." Although the sentiments are lovely, sometimes it makes it difficult to coordinate the clergyman and venue with all the other criteria for planning your wedding. Here’s the best way to choose your date.

1. Pick 3 dates listing first, second and third preferences.

2. Call your clergyman (church location) or wedding officiator and ask which dates he/she is available and what their preference is.

3. Make a list of the 3 possible reception locations in the order of preference. Call each location and check the availability of your dates. Then, make appointments to see each one in order of your preference. Even though you may love a place, when you start working with their coordinator you may find that you have a better relationship with one place over another.

4. Call your church back and hold the date. Then call the venue and arrange to put down your deposit.

Once you have accomplished the above, you have locked in the three most important aspects of your wedding. You now have your date set, your clergyman and church date set and you have your reception venue guaranteed. The rest of the details will be more enjoyable and easy to accomplish.

Wedding Coordinators/Planners are worth their weight in gold. I like to say, "You don’t realize you NEED a wedding planner until the day of your wedding and then it’s too late." Many brides are surprised to find that wedding planners are often quite reasonable and can actually save you money. They have relationships with wonderful wedding professionals and can often find you the best "deals."

Do you know what the most common wedding disaster is? The pictures. Although many people have digital cameras today that take nice pictures, it may not be a good idea to have "Aunt Sally" be your photographer. Hire a professional so that you have wonderful photos and videos to remind of your special day for the rest of your life.